In order to show your respect
for someone while in their presence you do so by showing them your undivided
attention. That being said there is nothing that annoys me more than trying to have
a conversation with someone who is on their phone every five seconds. I have
heard the “I can multitask”, and the “I still heard everything” justifications
for rude mannerisms and that only heightens my irritation. I don't care if you
think you can multitask, it doesn't change the fact that what you're doing is
rude.
Last week for example I was out for lunch with my mom, but she was out to lunch with her phone. As soon as we got to the restaurant the constant phone interruptions began. We were looking over the menu for a fair amount of time, or I suppose only I was because when it came time to order my mom hadn’t even looked at it yet. That annoyed me because the whole time I was telling her about items on the menu she would like, or that looked good. She admitted to not hearing a single word I said as she was a bit “busy” were her exact words. As far as I’m concerned the only thing that you should be “busy” doing at a restaurant is ordering your food and acknowledging who you’re there with.
Last week for example I was out for lunch with my mom, but she was out to lunch with her phone. As soon as we got to the restaurant the constant phone interruptions began. We were looking over the menu for a fair amount of time, or I suppose only I was because when it came time to order my mom hadn’t even looked at it yet. That annoyed me because the whole time I was telling her about items on the menu she would like, or that looked good. She admitted to not hearing a single word I said as she was a bit “busy” were her exact words. As far as I’m concerned the only thing that you should be “busy” doing at a restaurant is ordering your food and acknowledging who you’re there with.
Once we were done eating
we were having a conversation about the new cast of Dancing with the Stars, I
was particularly excited about Bill Nye and telling my mom a bit about him. At this
point in the conversation my mom had been on her phone a multitude of times and
I could tell I was having a conversation with myself. Not only did she refer to
Bill Nye as “some science guy” but she thought I was talking about one of my
professors.
Those were just a couple
of examples from my lunch experience and it was something that irritated me more
than usual because the only reason I even watch Dancing with the Stars is
because it’s her favorite show. Also, the only reason we went for lunch is because
she wanted to try that restaurant out, so an hour and a half is a reasonably small
amount of time to sacrifice I would say. I just don’t understand the point in
spending time with someone if you’re going to be on your phone the whole time.
I would almost expect that sort of behaviour from some of my friends, but not from
my mother.
How dare your mother refer to Bill Nye as "some science guy". Everyone know's he's THE Science Guy. Bill, Bill, Bill, Bill...
ReplyDeleteI don't pay for phone connectivity anymore. It's a waste of money. But, I do still carry my phone around with me. Sure, I can't call anyone. I can't receive emails either. BUT, I can pretend to. I find that's very useful. If I'm stuck in a conversation with someone deadly boring, I pull out my phone and start playing Sudoku. If they don't get the message that I don't want them to talk to me, at least I'm getting some kind of entertainment out of the situation.
ReplyDeleteOh. Yeah. I do know that's rude. That's the point.
I completely agree with this, although I'm the worst culprit. I'd say there's more to be said here about the "fear of missing out"... Er... FOMO? Is that what people say? I spend an absurd amount of time glued to my phone when I'm out with anyone, whether it's posting to Instagram or checking Twitter. It's an issue! I feel ya!
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